Sufficiency isn’t two steps up from poverty or one step short of abundance. It isn’t a measure of barely enough or more than enough. Sufficiency isn’t an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough.” -Brene Brown
I don’t know about you but I struggle with chronic feelings of not good enough, that no matter how much I do or achieve in life, I still feel not good enough. I feel like I need to do, or it was a fluke that I succeed at something. Which of course leads me to believe that I have to do more and more, perfection is the only goal or else I am not good enough. Or as Brene Brown says, “I am what I accomplish and how well I accomplish it. Please. Perform. Perfect.” This Please. Perform. Perfect. mindset feeds feelings of not good enough.
So how can we let go of the Please. Perform. Perfect habit or mindset. How do we know enough?
For myself, this happens by many small decisions that help me slow down and savor, and cultivate enough in my life.
Like deciding that 10 to 15 minutes daily yoga practice instead of 1 to 1.5 hours five days week is enough.
Or deciding that my weekend to do lists must fit on an small index card instead of a letter-size piece of paper.
Or deciding blogging once a week instead of 3 times a week is enough.
or deciding that spending more time outside more instead of staying at my computer working is enough.
Or deciding to clean out one draw/cupboard/closet a week instead of cleaning out the whole house in a weekend is enough.
Or deciding to only teach one writing workshop at a time instead of pushing myself to teach 3 or 4 at a time is enough.
Or deciding that 80% effort really is enough, more than enough, for most of my tasks in life.
I think this also happens by awareness of areas in our life where the Please. Perform. Perfect mindset is operating, consciously or unconsciously. When we can see it, we can choose let go of frantic doing to prove our worth and give ourselves permission to do enough.
We also need to see how we already are treating ourselves with compassion and respect, knowing we are enough.
Join me for #cultivatingenough, a free daily photo challenge
Cultivating Enough is about building this awareness, compassion and respect for ourselves. Through daily photo prompts we will explore how we are enough and life is enough.
It is about feeling good enough, knowing we do enough and life is enough.
Remember this is about enough, so join in as much or as little as you like. There are no rules. There is no perfection, please or perform here. Just an opportunity to connect with other women who also struggle with feelings of not good enough.
As there are no rules participating is easy. Simply take a photo of your interpretation of that day’s prompt or not, and post it on Instagram with #cultivatingenough. If you’d like to tag me too, I’m @kiraelli.
– Use your phone or a camera
– Join in whenever you like during the month
– Post a picture every day or some days
– Share it on Instagram, or keep it to yourself
Also, you can sign up for daily emails with the photo prompts and additional writing and/or other creative expression questions HERE. I know I find it so much easier to remember the prompt if I get an email, otherwise I am hunting all over the internet looking for the prompt.